LIFE LESSONS

On not having a jowa at 20sh something

Babala. Medyo personal ang post.

9:00PM, payapa akong naglalaro ng online games dahil may quests akong ‘di matapos-tapos. Nasa kalagitnaan rin ako ng scrolling sa Instagram dahil naghahanap ako ng halaman para sa kwarto. Habang ginagawa ko lahat ng iyon sa isang malamig na gabi (salamat sa aircon at Meralco na naibalik ang kuryente at 6:00PM), bigla akong kinausap ni Lola.

“Ilang taon ka na. Wala ka pa ring boyfriend. Kaya mo bang mabuhay nang mag-isa? Mahirap mabuhay mag-isa.”

Syempre, super concerned lang talaga si lola kaya niya nasabi ‘yon. Two years na akong super independent sa buhay (in some ways), at siguro, nararamdaman niyang kailangan ko na nga ata talaga ng makakasama sa buhay.

Kaya nga, dahil sa conversation na ‘yon, naisip ko lang ‘to:

  1. I do not need to rush. Kalma lang. Not having a jowa at this age is not a need. In this time of pandemic, mas marami pang pwedeng i-prioritize. Prioritize genuine friendships, relationship with family, and self-development.
  2. Not having a jowa does not make me a less person. Ewan ko ba. Uso pa rin ata ‘yung thinking na kahit anong ganap mo sa buhay, kapag wala kang jowa, laging kulang. Hahehehe.
  3. I am at peace at this age. I am blessed and contented. I never felt alone because I have so many meaningful relationships with my family and friends. While I am at this age, I am busy dreaming and fulfilling those dreams one step at a time.

‘Yung edad ko atang ito ‘yung edad na kung saan halos lahat ng ka-batch ko may achievements sa buhay. May kanya-kanya silang milestones. Nakakailang anak na. Nakakailang work na. Nakakailang bansa na napuntahan. Super happy ako for them, genuinely.

Kung gaano ako kasaya para sa kanila, ganoon rin naman ako kasaya sa kung nasaan ako ngayon.

Lahat ng tao, may kanya-kanyang oras sa buhay. Kalma lang. 🙂

LIFE LESSONS

It’s okay not to be productive, friends.

This pandemic has brought us a lot of problems. Some are physically suffering. Some are emotionally unwell. Some people are definitely disturbed and so anxious for not knowing what the future holds.

My Personal Experience (And I am honest about this)

Right now, I am privileged enough to be writing this blog. Through this, I can cope with all the emotional ups and downs that I am going through. Wow. The term.

To be honest, for the first few weeks of the quarantine, I was able to establish a routine and to follow it religiously. I tweaked some of my activities whenever it is needed. I also added and changed my room decoration to have a new working ambience.

Again, for the first months, I was able to be “productive” because I felt that I had to be productive since I have the luxury of time. But, let’s be honest, it’s not always a good day.

There were days that I feel down about what is happening. I know that I couldn’t control these things. I always felt laying down on my bed, looking at my ceiling, and questioning what would happen next. But most of all, I couldn’t help but to feel so down because of not being able to do things.

Why is it okay not to be productive?

After watching bestdressed vlog, here I am, typing this blog to write about not being able to do things recently. I will try to convince you, friends, that sometimes, it is okay not to be productive.

  • It’s okay not to be productive because (as what they say), we do not work from home, we try to work from home. We are facing this pandemic and I believe it is really challenging to work and be productive if we are in this certain phase of life.
  • It’s okay not to be productive because you need to focus on your health. Friend, you need to maintain a good mental health as well. If you would force yourself to work like you used to, then you are just being hard on yourself. (and that wouldn’t help you either)
  • It’s okay not to be productive because (maybe) you have done enough for the week. Your mind and body need to relax. You need to recharge. Yes, you need to keep going and to try to cope with the new normal, but then, you also have to take care of yourself.

Keep your chill. If you can’t do everything now, take a break.

Sip your favorite coffee. Have a good breakfast. Laugh at funny Tiktok videos. Share a meme with you friends. Watch movies without feeling guilty about the time spent on this.

Life calls for balance. As what Ashley (bestdressed) said, “There is not always a later.” Right now, consider doing the things that you’ve forgotten to do. Read a book. Have a good conversation with your loved ones. Keep in touch with good old friends.

Chill ka muna tapos, laban ulit.

LIFE LESSONS

Financial Thoughts Amidst COVID19 Pandemic

Because of this COVID19 pandemic, I have learned a lot of lessons about my finances. As a private school teacher, I am blessed enough to be compensated despite this pandemic. However, for the next few months, I am still unsure if I would have a stable job or income like this.

I have listed some of my important lessons on finance amidst this COVID 19 pandemic.

I hope this could help you reflect on your own finances as well. I am not an expert on this. I just do some things that would make me look like a responsible adult.

Buy what is essential.

Before this pandemic, I cannot live without milk tea, frappe, overpriced coffee, and some snacks. I always passed by the nearest convenience store near our school. But now, I realised that I really do not need these refreshments. I could be satisfied with the usual coffee that we have at home. Also, snacks and refreshments could just be as simple as a slice of bread, pancit canton, or a piece of banana.

Having an Emergency Fund is a big help.

I do not mean that I have plenty of money, but I could say that I am blessed enough with some privileges that made me save money. Having an emergency fund is really helpful in times like this. I could simply turn to it just in case worst scenarios happen.

Stocks, VUL, and Insurance matter.

Yes, they matter. However, I am not sure whether you are capable of getting one in times like this. We do not know until when this crisis would be. But, if you have spare money to avail these, then you may do so. This is a perfect time to invest on these specially the prices are low. You have to reassess your finances whether you can have these or not.

Invest on a good home.

I do not say house. But, I hope you can find a good home where you feel loved and accepted. Material things or furniture does not matter; what matters is you are comfortable at home. With this, it is really important to invest feelings on the right person. Hahaha.

Look for Sidelines

If you’ve been reading my blog, you’d know that I have tried several online jobs. I worked as a teacher in 51talk for a month, and as a freelance writer on Upwork for five years. Having another source of income is a great help. You can also try setting up an online store. These days, I see a lot of products on Facebook. I believe social media would help you reach your target audience.

Final Thoughts

I live in a country that is full of uncertainties. I worry because my job depends on how the government would handle this crisis. As of this writing, I can only hope for the best. Right now, the most practical thing that I could do is to spend less, work more, and try not to eat a lot. I have to settle with the resources that I have at home. Lastly, I should always pray and be grateful to God for showering me and my family with His grace.

How are you, friends/readers? I hope you are all doing well.

TEACH

How to Conduct Online Classes

Because of COVID19, and enhanced community quarantine, most schools are planning to do online learning or distance learning with their students.

In this blog post, I will share my experience about conducting online class using Zoom to first graders.

Please take note that this is an informal online class set-up.

Before the class:

1. Decide which program should you use for this class. Make sure to maximize its features.

In my case, I used Zoom because it is free and I can invite a good number of students there. You can easily explore the other features of Zoom. Discover how these features will help you. I really like its breakout group feature.

2. Be detailed about the online class instructions.

Create a simple poster or reminder about the class. In your reminder, include the following details: a. date and time of the class, b. the app or program to be used, c. meeting ID and password, and d. materials needed (if there are any). 

Do not forget to list the materials that students need during the class. Inform them if they need notebook or papers, and coloring materials.

3. Be ready with your teaching materials (slides, videos, audios) and your equipment as well. 

Double check whether your internet connection is good thru speedtest.com. Double check whether your laptop and other computer accessories are functioning well.

When it comes to teaching materials, make sure that your slides are suited for your young audience. Review your slides. Also, your videos and audios must be new and relevant to your students. These materials must cover the skills for the day. Also, make sure that your instructions would be simple for kids.

During the class: 

1. Set your classroom rules.

The first five minutes of your online class must be about classroom rules. Be mindful of the following when setting up rules.

a. How should the student respond when she has a question? (Thumbs up, Use the Chat Box, Use the Microphone etc.

b. When should the student Mute or Unmute her microphone? Would the teacher unmute the mic for all?

c. When will the student speak? Would you call them by names? If yes, how?

Note: Always remind the students to look at their screen. Sometimes, they tend to multi-task. When your students know that you are keen about this, greater are the chances that they would really pay attention.

2. Set the objectives for the day.

Let your students know what specific skill would you teach them. For a 40-minute class, I believe one essential skill for first grader will do.

3. Inform the students about the flow of the class.

You also have to tell them the flow of the class.

Sample Online Class Flow:

  1. Rules
  2. Objectives
  3. Energizer/Motivation
  4. Lesson Proper
  5. Evaluation.

For longer online classes, a five-minute break is okay.

After the Class

1. Remind the class when the next online class would be. 

It is important the students and parents know when is the next class so they would look forward to it. They would be mentally-prepared for the next class. Remind them when and how would they submit their homework if there are any.

2. Allow your students to ask questions. 

Always encourage students to ask questions. Since they are too young to type, they may use their microphone to ask questions. If there are no questions, then you may formally end the class.

3. You can ask feedback from the parents about your class. 

Evaluation surely helps you on how to plan your next activity.

 

It is really difficult to conduct online classes to younger students. But still, we should know how to adapt to this situation. At the end of the day, all we can be is to be more flexible in daily challenges when it comes to education. Naks!

I pray that you may conduct your online class well. If you have queries, let me know.

LIFE LESSONS

Paano mo malalaman kung nakapagpatawad ka na?

Naniniwala ka rin ba na ang pag-ibig ay may kalakip rin na sakit? Ako, oo.

Nang matapos ang six year relationship, akala ko talaga pain at sadness na lang talaga ang kaya kong maramdaman. Nasa point ako ng December 2018 na habang nagsasaya ang ibang tao, ako nakatulala lang sa ceiling ng kwarto ko tuwing umaga.

Grabe ‘yung sakit na naramdaman ko after breakup. Ilang beses ko ring tinanong sa sarili ko kung ganoon ba talaga ako ka-hopeless, useless, at worthless. Sobrang sakit. Halos isumpa ko na si pusit dahil sa lahat ng sakit na dulot niya. Huhu. Inisip ko nga sana bumagsak ‘yung eroplanong sinasakyan niya. Haha. Bad.

Pero, habang tumatakbo ang mga araw-araw, alam ko sa sarili ko na kailangan ko na ring magpatawad. Forgiveness. Pagpapatawad. Sabi nga ni Jesus, forgive seven times seven times seven.

Paano mo malalaman kung nakapagpatawad ka na?

1. Kapag inisip mo ang taong ‘yon, hindi ka na makakaramdam ng galit. 

Dati, kapag naririnig mo ‘yung pangalan niya, halos isumpa mo na. Dati, naisip ko na lang na isama ‘yung pangalan niya sa listahan ng mass for the souls sa simbahan. Hindi ko alam. Kung saan-saan na lang ako dinadala ng galit ko noon. Pero, alam mong nakapagpatawad ka na kapag sa tuwing iniisip mo pa siya, hindi ka na galit.

2. Kapag nakita mo ang taong ‘yon, alam mong normal na lang na tao siya. Wala ng ibang feelings. Stoic ka na lang. 

Nangyari ‘to sa akin. Ilang buwan after breakup. Nakita ko si pusit. There comes thousands of heartbeat again, friends! Galit na galit pa pala ako noon. Birthmonth ko pa naman. Ngayon, ‘di ko na siya nakita ulit. Buti na lang. Pero I guess, kahit makita ko pa siya, stoic na lang ako. Wala lang. 🙂

3. Kapag pinag-usapan ang taong ‘yon, pinagtatawanan mo na lang lahat ng nangyari noon. 

Kapag mapag-usapan siya sa newsfeed, matatawa ka na lang sa mga naisip mong revenge thoughts dati. Alam mong nakapagpatawad ka na kung hinayaan mo na lang ‘yung mga kaibigan mong i-bash siya. Makaka-bash ka, pero bash with class. Wala na lang talaga sa’yo. Matatawa ka na lang.

4. Kapag nakakatulog ka na sa gabi na hindi mo na iniisip lahat ng ginawa niyang masakit sa iyo. 

Kapag nakakatulog ka na sa gabi na hindi mo na naiisip ‘yung lahat ng ginawa niyang masakit sa iyo. Kasinungalingan, cheating, at iba pa. Nakapagpatawad ka na kung hindi ka na nagdu-dwell doon.

5. Kapag nasabi o naipaalam mo na sa kanya na pinapatawad mo na siya. 

Ito ‘yung pinakamahirap sa lahat. Malalaman mo lang na nakapagpatawad ka na kung masasabi o maipapaalam mo ito sa kanya. Huy, grabe. Akala ko hindi ko ito magagawa. After ilang months, kaya naman palang gawin. With sincerity. Kailangan lang talaga ng grace ng Holy Spirit. Kailangan lang ng sincerity. Kakayanin kung gugustuhin.

There you have it, mga kaibigan. Alam mong nakapagpatawad ka na kung nagawa mo na ito. Kung hindi pa, ayos lang. Give yourself a time. Baka kailangan mo ring patawarin muna ‘yung sarili mo, bago mo totally patawarin ang iba.

Patawarin mo muna ang sarili mo dahil sa mga bagay na hindi mo nagawa, mga desisyong hindi naging matagumpay, at pagiging marupok, sometimes.

Kapag nagpatawad ka, mas mapapalaya mo na ang iyong sarili.

Don’t let your pain overcome you. Forgive, let God, and let go.

Then, ‘wag na papaloko ulit. 🙂