LIFE LESSONS

Third Space

Have you heard of the term third space?

When you go out of your house, you bring your own baggage. Then, as you proceed with your journey, you carry that baggage with you. Once you meet and interact people, you’d know they too have their own baggage.

Now, when you entertain someone, you are slowly introducing your baggage to him/her. Later on, you’ll show him/her what is inside your baggage.You’ll show him/her your childhood memory. You’ll explain your happiest moment out of that baggage. You will also show him/her the different compartments that your baggage has. You will tell him/her why those compartments exist. You will gladly tell him/her that those spaces are made for permanent people in your life.

As you speak with that person, he/she will also show you the kind of baggage that he has. He/She will open up that baggage for you. Maybe, his/her baggage has different content from yours. You may find it unique or weird. That depends to your upbringing or opinion? Not sure. Still, as that person opens up his/her baggage with/for you, you slowly realize that person must have travelled miles to see you and show you what he has. Both of you decide to journey together. You carry your own baggages. You share your unique experiences.

Later on, you’ll realize that you need a space where you can place the baggage that you both have. Now, you ended up looking for a shared space where you can both put your baggages together. That’s the third space. You see. Your baggage maybe smaller than his. Maybe, his baggage requires more from your third space. That’s when you compromise.

Your third space is where you and your special someone (or maybe a group of people) meet in between. Third space is where understanding (supposedly) and commonality should meet.

Again, you have different baggages, exposure to society, upbringing, views, and perception about life. Those differences meet at your third space.

Question. How is your third space? Not only with a certain person, but with your friends, family, and colleagues?

How is your third space?

Do you consider your third space peaceful?

Do you consider your third space genuine?

Do you consider your third space lacking?

You and the people around you has their own made-up third spaces. Every single day is an opportunity to make that third space worth sharing. Now, are you willing to share your third space?

PS. Post is inspired by Angela Esmeralda’s Podcast: Pa-relevant. It is on Spotify. Super relevant. Please search. Good day ahead, folks!

ART

When you buy art from artists, you are not just buying their products/services. You support their hardwork.

When you buy art from artists, you are not just buying their products/services.

You support their humble beginnings. Becoming an artist is not something a person can do overnight. It’s not magic, nor there is any secret formula on becoming one. Sleepless nights, newbie-feels in the field, and uncertainties are always present.

When you buy art from artists, you support the way they cope with tons of rejections. You support how they stood up and got back to the track. Crafting an art is not easy. It includes series of setbacks and failures. Still, artists thrive despite their personal issues in life.

When you buy art from artists, you support how they’ve honed their craft. You support their studies about it. You support their research on making their craft better. You push them for their betterment. You also support how they present their final outputs.

When you buy art from artists, you are subconsciously telling them to continue creating. You give them the means and the encouragement to keep on doing what the world needs. Art may not feed your physical body, but it is something that feeds your soul.

Again, when you buy art from artists, you are urging them to make this world a better place despite of all the mess present in life.

To the artists reading this, padayon!

To our supporters, salamat!

PERSONAL

New found hobbies this quarantine

I never thought of acquiring other hobbies apart from reading books, writing, and procrastinating. However, this quarantine gave me the luxury of time to explore and do new activities which I never thought I would do.

Gardening

I was never a fan of high maintenance plants. I used to buy cactus for the sake of buying plants at home. Whenever I buy cactus, they die. I don’t know. Am I not a parent material?

Still, I tried to take care of some plants. I just saw these online and I decided to buy some. Look at the leaves. The leaves are growing!!! 😀

Playing online games

I never installed games on my phone. I just did not like to play games. I believed that playing games was wasting time. But then, I was wrong.

Playing online games taught me to be patient. Playing online games made me honor my process in the game. It’s been a month and my character shows great improvement.

Watching KDrama

I refused on watching KDrama since the quarantine started. I believed that I could be productive by merely writing and reading. Also, I never wanted to invest feelings on it. Huhu.

However, as days passed by, I am running out of activities. Hence, I’ve decided to just watch a series on Netflix. I am currently watching It’s Okay Not To Be Okay and I am loving it!

Illustrating cutie-patootie doodles

I have accepted the fact that I am not good in drawing. But, when I started to doodle for the past few days, I’ve realized that I can draw.

I just follow some guidelines on Youtube, copy some caricatures, or just draw.

Having mindful mornings

I’ve appreciated bringing my pet, Max, outside. I have also tried jogging for an hour. I have prepared breakfast meals, too. I guess, these things are bringing good vibes.

To be honest, I am feeling more anxious about the future. (Wait, is there one?) I am in between doubt and hope. So, I keep on doing activities that are new for me.

Aside from working for my full-time job, I also do my best to post stuff on my blog on Facebook.

I am coping. I am still breathing. I hope you do the same, too.

What are your new hobbies? Share your thoughts? 🙂

LIFE LESSONS

On not having a jowa at 20sh something

Babala. Medyo personal ang post.

9:00PM, payapa akong naglalaro ng online games dahil may quests akong ‘di matapos-tapos. Nasa kalagitnaan rin ako ng scrolling sa Instagram dahil naghahanap ako ng halaman para sa kwarto. Habang ginagawa ko lahat ng iyon sa isang malamig na gabi (salamat sa aircon at Meralco na naibalik ang kuryente at 6:00PM), bigla akong kinausap ni Lola.

“Ilang taon ka na. Wala ka pa ring boyfriend. Kaya mo bang mabuhay nang mag-isa? Mahirap mabuhay mag-isa.”

Syempre, super concerned lang talaga si lola kaya niya nasabi ‘yon. Two years na akong super independent sa buhay (in some ways), at siguro, nararamdaman niyang kailangan ko na nga ata talaga ng makakasama sa buhay.

Kaya nga, dahil sa conversation na ‘yon, naisip ko lang ‘to:

  1. I do not need to rush. Kalma lang. Not having a jowa at this age is not a need. In this time of pandemic, mas marami pang pwedeng i-prioritize. Prioritize genuine friendships, relationship with family, and self-development.
  2. Not having a jowa does not make me a less person. Ewan ko ba. Uso pa rin ata ‘yung thinking na kahit anong ganap mo sa buhay, kapag wala kang jowa, laging kulang. Hahehehe.
  3. I am at peace at this age. I am blessed and contented. I never felt alone because I have so many meaningful relationships with my family and friends. While I am at this age, I am busy dreaming and fulfilling those dreams one step at a time.

‘Yung edad ko atang ito ‘yung edad na kung saan halos lahat ng ka-batch ko may achievements sa buhay. May kanya-kanya silang milestones. Nakakailang anak na. Nakakailang work na. Nakakailang bansa na napuntahan. Super happy ako for them, genuinely.

Kung gaano ako kasaya para sa kanila, ganoon rin naman ako kasaya sa kung nasaan ako ngayon.

Lahat ng tao, may kanya-kanyang oras sa buhay. Kalma lang. 🙂

LIFE LESSONS

It’s okay not to be productive, friends.

This pandemic has brought us a lot of problems. Some are physically suffering. Some are emotionally unwell. Some people are definitely disturbed and so anxious for not knowing what the future holds.

My Personal Experience (And I am honest about this)

Right now, I am privileged enough to be writing this blog. Through this, I can cope with all the emotional ups and downs that I am going through. Wow. The term.

To be honest, for the first few weeks of the quarantine, I was able to establish a routine and to follow it religiously. I tweaked some of my activities whenever it is needed. I also added and changed my room decoration to have a new working ambience.

Again, for the first months, I was able to be “productive” because I felt that I had to be productive since I have the luxury of time. But, let’s be honest, it’s not always a good day.

There were days that I feel down about what is happening. I know that I couldn’t control these things. I always felt laying down on my bed, looking at my ceiling, and questioning what would happen next. But most of all, I couldn’t help but to feel so down because of not being able to do things.

Why is it okay not to be productive?

After watching bestdressed vlog, here I am, typing this blog to write about not being able to do things recently. I will try to convince you, friends, that sometimes, it is okay not to be productive.

  • It’s okay not to be productive because (as what they say), we do not work from home, we try to work from home. We are facing this pandemic and I believe it is really challenging to work and be productive if we are in this certain phase of life.
  • It’s okay not to be productive because you need to focus on your health. Friend, you need to maintain a good mental health as well. If you would force yourself to work like you used to, then you are just being hard on yourself. (and that wouldn’t help you either)
  • It’s okay not to be productive because (maybe) you have done enough for the week. Your mind and body need to relax. You need to recharge. Yes, you need to keep going and to try to cope with the new normal, but then, you also have to take care of yourself.

Keep your chill. If you can’t do everything now, take a break.

Sip your favorite coffee. Have a good breakfast. Laugh at funny Tiktok videos. Share a meme with you friends. Watch movies without feeling guilty about the time spent on this.

Life calls for balance. As what Ashley (bestdressed) said, “There is not always a later.” Right now, consider doing the things that you’ve forgotten to do. Read a book. Have a good conversation with your loved ones. Keep in touch with good old friends.

Chill ka muna tapos, laban ulit.