Have you heard of the term third space?
When you go out of your house, you bring your own baggage. Then, as you proceed with your journey, you carry that baggage with you. Once you meet and interact people, you’d know they too have their own baggage.
Now, when you entertain someone, you are slowly introducing your baggage to him/her. Later on, you’ll show him/her what is inside your baggage.You’ll show him/her your childhood memory. You’ll explain your happiest moment out of that baggage. You will also show him/her the different compartments that your baggage has. You will tell him/her why those compartments exist. You will gladly tell him/her that those spaces are made for permanent people in your life.
As you speak with that person, he/she will also show you the kind of baggage that he has. He/She will open up that baggage for you. Maybe, his/her baggage has different content from yours. You may find it unique or weird. That depends to your upbringing or opinion? Not sure. Still, as that person opens up his/her baggage with/for you, you slowly realize that person must have travelled miles to see you and show you what he has. Both of you decide to journey together. You carry your own baggages. You share your unique experiences.
Later on, you’ll realize that you need a space where you can place the baggage that you both have. Now, you ended up looking for a shared space where you can both put your baggages together. That’s the third space. You see. Your baggage maybe smaller than his. Maybe, his baggage requires more from your third space. That’s when you compromise.
Your third space is where you and your special someone (or maybe a group of people) meet in between. Third space is where understanding (supposedly) and commonality should meet.
Again, you have different baggages, exposure to society, upbringing, views, and perception about life. Those differences meet at your third space.
Question. How is your third space? Not only with a certain person, but with your friends, family, and colleagues?
How is your third space?
Do you consider your third space peaceful?
Do you consider your third space genuine?
Do you consider your third space lacking?
You and the people around you has their own made-up third spaces. Every single day is an opportunity to make that third space worth sharing. Now, are you willing to share your third space?
PS. Post is inspired by Angela Esmeralda’s Podcast: Pa-relevant. It is on Spotify. Super relevant. Please search. Good day ahead, folks!